Back in Blighty

It’s over six years since I was last in the UK. When I arrived yesterday I felt a distinct weirdness, but I’m already over that. In fact right this minute I feel better than I have in weeks if not months.

I thoroughly recommend Emirates. All four legs of my journey were extremely pleasant. The staff were friendly and the food was the best I’ve ever experienced on a long-haul flight. Admittedly I got lucky by having at least one empty seat next to me, and sometimes two, all the way from Sydney. Emirates run a ten-abreast configuration on their 777s, as many airlines unfortunately do these days, and you can really use an empty seat or two there. The airline is a colossus and its mega-hub, Dubai, is heaving with A380s. Emirates fly nearly half of all the four-engined double-decker behemoths in existence. We spent a bit longer than we bargained for in Dubai as all planes were grounded for over an hour thanks to a rogue drone.

I watched some films on the plane but nothing remotely blockbustery (I’m fed up with that). I saw The Man Who Knew Infinity, the story of the great mathematician Ramanujan and his mentor Hardy who was played by Jeremy Irons. Given that it was set in Cambridge and I noticed that both my flight number and row number were prime before I got on the plane, this was an unsurprising choice of movie for me. I then saw Eddie The Eagle, the story of the British ski jumper from my youth, Where to Invade Next?, the Michael Moore film that suddenly made me want to visit Slovenia, and a weird animated film called Anomalisa.

Although everything went without a hitch, apart from the drone, flying half-way around the world without a stopover is always an ordeal. And even at Heathrow, 32 hours after I left Christchurch, there was plenty of travelling yet to endure. I was carrying 35 kilos of luggage. At least I beat the rush hour in London. I’d forgotten just how far it is on the Piccadilly Line from Heathrow: almost an hour. I then scrambled onto the non-stop train to Cambridge and took the new guided bus to St Ives (it actually sprang into action in 2011 not long after I was last here, but it’s new to me). I hit rush hour in Cambridge and I must have been a right pain in the butt on that bus with my bags. It was almost 6pm when I arrived at my parents’ apartment. I got a takeaway curry in town and at 8:30 I was out like a light. I slept for ten hours.

St Ives has changed surprisingly little. There wasn’t a Polski Sklep last time I was here, and Tom’s Cakes would appear to be healthier than the smoke-filled windowless betting shop I remember. But many of the businesses I remember from 2010, and even as a kid, are still running. And the river, the bridge, the meadow, the things that make St Ives what it is, have hardly changed at all.

My aunt popped in this morning but I missed her. She brought me some food and a copy of the Daily Mail, of which I can only bring myself to read selected bits. I was out FaceTiming my parents from the library and trying to recover the money from my frozen Barclays account.

On Saturday I’ll be going to London to catch up with a friend from university. There was a piece on the news about people born in the eighties being only half as wealthy as those born in the seventies. I was born in ’80, he in ’79. He qualified as an actuary ten years ago and has done very well for himself. He has quite an amazing mind and has always worked hard. I wouldn’t mind being half as wealthy as him.

Why on earth am I doing this? That’s what I thought on Tuesday just before boarding the plane. Even getting to that point was quite a challenge for me. Now I get the feeling that it might, just might, all be worth it.

Not long now

Mum’s behaviour on Saturday − rolling around on the floor for 30 seconds, screaming and shouting, and saying that she wanted to die − was a classic case of playing the victim and attention seeking. That was clear when I saw her looking at home furnishings online minutes later. She’s been playing the victim for decades, most often with Dad, but he never calls her out on it. There’s no point reasoning with Mum so I’ve just let time take its course. She’s much better now. Mum is intelligent (if by no means an academic), helpful (in her own way!) and very practical. It’s just a shame her emotional IQ, or EQ if you like, is a couple of standard deviations below the mean.

I don’t enjoy staying at my parents’ place anymore. Our lives are drifting apart; a mansion like this isn’t something I’ll ever have or want. The weather has been awful since I arrived. In Wellington I manage to get out even in the wind and rain, but here there’s nowhere to go and nothing to do. My aunt and uncle came over last night for dinner. I get on well with them. Unfortunately the topic of conversation didn’t stray from real estate for the whole time we ate. “How did the Robertsons get seven-twenty for that? It wasn’t even renovated!” Mum said, “If that one on Tancred Street went for 679, how much would we get for this?” I said 680. Even I, with my very limited knowledge of Geraldine house prices, know it would go for at least $800,000.

Packing, which two days ago was finished, has now become unfinished. Mum has bought me some winter clothes and it would hurt her feelings if I didn’t include them. The weight limit doesn’t allow me to take both her stuff and mine. I’m unable to fully leave her behind.

My flight leaves Christchurch at 4:55pm tomorrow. I’m flying with Emirates. My first plane, a 777, makes short stops at Sydney and Bangkok on the way to Dubai. From there I’ll be taking one of Emirates’ extensive fleet of A380s to Heathrow.

I got an email from the marimba teacher asking me how I’m getting on. I’ve missed that a lot − it was the highlight of my week while I had a flatmate. I see the Red Sox have won their last eleven games and have almost wrapped up their division. Won’t it be great to write about travel, language, music, baseball and things that I actually care about? I hope I’ll get the chance. Not long now.

Falling out

I’ve managed to fall out with Mum. This isn’t the first time this has happened, or the 21st, but none of the other occasions involved her rolling around on the floor screaming and saying she wanted to die. There’d be no point in suggesting that she visits the doctor, which is probably what she needs. Minutes after dragging herself up from the floor she was browsing curtains on the UK-based John Lewis website. I’m no expert on these things, but that would seem to suggest that she wants to live. This all happened five hours ago and she still won’t talk to me. The easiest thing would be for me to apologise, but I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong. Mum flies off the handle and ratchets up the stakes at the slightest thing, causing a lot of unnecessary stress for everyone. Today I called her out on that,  not that she paid any attention to what I said of course. She was just deeply offended and that was that (as always; you can never have a reasoned argument with Mum). This is awful timing when I’m about to go away.

One side benefit of our falling-out is that my bags are now fully packed. I thought I might not be welcome here anymore. I’d rather spend the next three nights in Christchurch than here in Geraldine, even with the added expense, because there’d be far more to do, but I expect I’ll be staying here after all.

I played tennis last Saturday for the last time in a long time, against the guy I was extremely lucky to beat last month. No such luck this time. He played a blinder. Everything he touched turned to gold. I played far better than last time too, but after losing four games out of five to concede the first set 6-4 I was out of ideas. My losing run extended to eight games from nine in the second set, and the glimmer of hope I got from winning the next two games was quickly snuffed out as I lost the set 6-2 and the match in an hour. It was a damn good hour of exercise though.

Timișoara has been named European Capital of Culture for 2021. It’s the same award that was bestowed on Sibiu in 2007, and hopefully it will have the same effect. Fantastic news for the first Romanian city I’ll get to visit (in just 13 days!).

Out of there!

Dad flew up to Wellington last Friday. We spent the weekend packing and cleaning and vacuuming and shoehorning items into the car in the teeming, unremitting rain. On Sunday we had two inches. The staff at Countdown were extremely helpful in getting us extra banana boxes. It’s amazing how much crap (and it is mostly crap) I’ve accumulated over the years. The van and trailer arrived at 7:20pm on Monday. Dad and I helped the driver and his younger assistant shift all the bulky items. They didn’t hang around. We turned up at the Bluebridge ferry terminal at 10:30 and boarded shortly after midnight. This feels like the start of my trip. We had a cabin which, with a loo and a hot shower, surpassed our (admittedly terrible) expectations. Although I was cold I must have managed at least four hours’ sleep, interrupted by the safety announcements as we left port at half-two. We got a wake-up call at half-five and were off the ferry by about 6:20. I don’t think Dad had slept a wink so I did most of the driving. We stopped at Blenheim (for petrol and a coffee and muffin each), Amberley (for tea and some chips) and Ashburton (for more petrol) before arriving at my parents’ place in Geraldine at 1:40. We just had time for a cup of tea before the van arrived on the stroke of two. Dad was cursing as my almost valueless crap kept filling up his garage space. My brother has already done his bit by palming off army boots and the like. My chest of drawers got damaged on the way; I wish now that I’d left that and the bookcase in storage in the basement. I paid $920 to have my freight delivered, little over half of what some other companies quoted me, so I can have few complaints. But moving is stressful.

That guy did apply to rent out my apartment and I happily accepted. He moved in yesterday so my place is already earning money. What a massive relief that is. My new tenant has spent the last eleven years working for an engineering consultancy in Auckland and has just taken a senior position in Wellington at the same company. His tenancy is for a relatively short term, until 19th February. I expect my property manager to bill me for this, that and the next thing over the next five months. The chair of our body corporate emailed me in her usual pompous style to say that they wish to move “imminently and aggressively” on seismic strengthening. I just hope the movement isn’t so imminent and aggressive that my tenant or his immediate successor will have to vacate the flat. God, I’ve hated the whole business of owning property and dealing with people who deal with property. I’m not cut out for it or in any way enthused by it.

Friday was my last day at work, where I was appreciated as a person more than I realised. My boss just about wrote an essay on my leaving card. I should try and keep in touch with him because you just never know, but really, could I face all those performance reviews and meetings and games? There was a remuneration review just before I left, and people complained about their derisory pay rises. One of my colleagues said she should have been rated as “achieving” rather than “growing” or “developing”. Hell, you’re 54. I’m buggered if I’m going to get a school-style report card telling me I’m growing when I’m 54. September has been a huge month for people leaving the company.

My flight to London leaves Christchurch on Tuesday.

Pretty vacant

I still haven’t got anyone to rent out my flat, and time is getting pretty damn short for me. It wasn’t until yesterday that I noticed my property manager had changed the ad to say it had two bedrooms rather than three without telling me. I told her what I thought of that. She’d received some feedback that one of the rooms was too small. And anyway, as I realised yesterday, the advert was crap. Really, really crap. That’s why thousands of people were looking at the ad but not liking what they saw. The lead photos were of the outside of the apartment, the interior photos gave no sense of spaciousness, the major selling points were omitted from the blurb or relegated to near the bottom, and if a student of English had written it, it would have been dripping with red ink by the time I’d finished with it. On that last point, I didn’t want to hurt her feelings so I never said anything. I completely rewrote the ad for my manager; it now includes the dimensions of the bedrooms so nobody can have any complaints. I asked her to take some more photos. And perhaps most importantly I dropped the rent by $25 a week. The good news is that someone who viewed the flat almost a month ago has expressed interest now that the rent has been lowered.

On Sunday I played a singles match. So much spin of all varieties to contend with. I won the first set 6-2 − a slightly flattering score; it was really a case of me winning the important points. But I really struggled after that, losing the last two sets 6-1, 6-2. At one stage I lost nine games in a row; at least from 5-0 down in the final set I salvaged two games and some respectability. The whole match was done and dusted in 65 minutes. The main positive I took from the loss was that I had no trouble getting to the ball − I’ve got my energy levels back. It was what happened after I got to the ball that was the problem. I thought I’d done tennis for the foreseeable future but I now have to play one final match on Saturday, a rematch against the guy I recently beat from match point down.

On Monday my student and his wife made dinner for both me and his wife’s tutor who comes from America. After soup to start, the main dish was big on seafood including squid. The American tutor (who will still be teaching my student’s wife) has a much stronger bond with her student than I had with mine, and helps her with many things that aren’t directly language-related. It was great that they invited us over for what I gather was typical food from their part of Myanmar minus most of the spiciness.

On Tuesday I attended a quiz, mainly just to say goodbye to some people.

My dad arrives tomorrow.

Creepy

When I got home last night there was a large envelope propped up against my letterbox that had come from Egelsbach in Germany, a stone’s throw from Frankfurt Airport if Google Maps is to be believed. Only it wasn’t for me. It was for a (presumably) young woman with the very common German surname Müller. I live at 2/19 Kowhai Street, i.e. the second flat of number 19. (My address isn’t exactly that but it might as well be.) In New Zealand they read 2/19 as “two bar nineteen” which struck me as a little weird the first time I heard it. I’d always called the / symbol a slash, or before web addresses became part of everyday life, a stroke. I never would have thought of calling it a bar. The sender, who I think was Miss Müller’s mother, had written the number 219 with a continental-style one which started with a long diagonal stroke. The postman took the diagonal stroke to be a slash (or “bar”) and the envelope, which contained pictures, ended up with me. I also noted that her mum had written her own surname as Müller with the umlaut (as a horizontal line) but her daughter’s name as Mueller. I trundled off down the road all the way to number 219 and sure enough Fräulein Müller lived there. I guess she was lucky that I’d lived in France where people do funny ones and crossed sevens. (I started writing crossed sevens when I lived there because I had to sit maths exams, and I still do them that way now. My ones are just a straight line though.) By the way, the word “mullered” was (is?) used in the UK to mean either what “munted” does in New Zealand, or extremely drunk.

This morning’s dullness and half-arsed but persistent rain reminded me of England. I met up with a friend at lunchtime (the last time I’ll see him before I go away − it’s getting like that now) and we stood in the cold in Civic Square for part of the low-key but worthwhile anti-TPP rally. Grant Robertson and some other politicians spoke. It’s a shame Robertson, my local MP, didn’t become Labour leader, but it’s good that he has the time and energy to attend events like this. (I know, his sexual orientation would make him less electable in certain parts of the country, even in 2016.) He was probably the most eloquent speaker there.

I had somebody (the sixth person or group) to look at my flat earlier this morning. It helps if I’m there because I can answer questions and build a some kind of rapport (even I can). I expected this place to be snapped up in no time, so the fact that it hasn’t been after nearly a month and that initial frenzy on Trade Me is a bit frustrating. The only people who were keen wanted it for too long and I had nagging doubts about them anyway.

I might − shock, horror − join Facebook as a way of keeping in touch with people when I’m away. If I do join the dark side it’ll only be to post photos and occasional updates of what I’ve been up to.

Update: I have just created a new Facebook account and man it’s creepy. How does their algorithm know that I worked with this person four years ago, and she might, just might, have a connection with Romania? How does it know that I went to an open home five years ago and that guy showed me around? How come it picked him and none of the other real estate agents I dealt with? What made it think that I’d want to “friend” him all these years later? (Your algorithm stuffed up there, didn’t it?) I logged off after five minutes but my creepometer had already hit 9 by then. If Fräulein Müller pops up the next time I visit Facebook…

High of 14? Yeah, right

I was about to write a list of things I’ll miss about Wellington. Top of my list was going to be the weather. Yeah, I know, the weather. In Wellington. When I listen to the 7am weather bulletin, the Wellington forecast is usually bright sunshine with a high of 14. Or torrential horizontal rain and a high of 14. Or nor-westers gusting to 130 k’s and a high of 14. The Cook Strait and rugged landscape otherwise plays havoc with Wellington’s weather patterns, but blissfully, the temperature needle hardly twitches for weeks on end. I was going to say how much I’ll miss that in Romania where the high will deviate a long way from 14 in both directions. But then today happened, the rain, the hail, the snow (yep), the wind that you could hardly stand up in, and as for the high, what high? (That’s what I said in 2009 when I was (mis)diagnosed as being bipolar.)

I gave my last English lesson on Monday. He and his wife have invited me over for dinner next week, which will be the last time I see him, in lieu of a lesson. They’re very pleasant people. He had a good last lesson as we went through three readers. He seemed to be more attentive and I was particularly impressed with his pronunciation of “shelves”.

There are billboards up all over the city as the mayoral election approaches. There are several prominent ones for Jo Coughlan that are made to look like road signs, and have slogans like “Four lanes to the planes” and “Toot for a second tunnel”. My carpool mate and I were wondering how on earth Ms Coughlan pronounces her surname. There are no fewer than seven common pronunciations of -ough in English, as in tough, though, trough, through, thought, thorough and drought. (Just look how close the first six of those words are to one another.) So what is it? Coo-lun? Cow-lun? Coff-lun? Turns out it’s Cog-lun. Different from all seven of the above. Fan-bloody-tastic. I’m not voting for you Ms Coughlan unless you change the pronunciation of your name. You’ve got plenty of options. (Ms Coughlan is Bill English’s sister-in-law. Her father, Tom, played one game for the All Blacks in the fifties. Tom’s brother, who died a few years ago, was at the same home in Timaru that my grandmother spent her final years; I remember he had enormous hands.) I won’t be voting for Jo anyway because I doubt I’ll get the chance before I go away, and even if I do, prioritising the car ahead of public transport is not where I see Wellington’s future.

Romanian commentary 10: some seismic vocab

I was woken at 4:40 this morning by the magnitude 7.1 earthquake that struck off East Cape. I felt a rolling motion that lasted a good 20 to 25 seconds. I didn’t get a lot of sleep after that. My carpool mate didn’t feel a thing and didn’t even know there had been a thing to feel. Gah!

Talking of things, Father’s Day is actually a thing that some people make a thing of. Who would have thought? There was me thinking it was just commercialised crap. If I gave my dad a Father’s Day present he’d think I was taking the piss. And he’d be right.

Brexit is back on the agenda after the parliamentary summer recess. I think the process was (and is still being) appallingly handled. The issue of Britain’s EU membership was too complex to be put to a referendum in the first place, both sides lied (though the Leave side did so more blatantly), and I can’t believe they never had a plan or timetable for leaving the EU.

This morning’s earthquake was the same magnitude as the one that hit Canterbury almost six years ago to the day, and at almost the same time. It generated a mini-tsunami, and came hot on the heels of Wednesday’s pretend “exercise” tsunami. Eastern Romania experiences earthquakes fairly regularly. Thirty years ago on Wednesday 150 lives were lost in a 7.1 quake, and in 1977 almost 1600 were killed in a 7.2 quake, mostly in Bucharest. Here is some earthquake vocabulary that I hope I won’t need:

Earthquake: cutremur
To shake: a zgudui
Shock wave: undă de șoc
Aftershock: replică
Fault line: linie de falie
Depth: adâncime
Damage (noun): pagubă
Destruction: distrugere
Struck: lovit
Earth or land: pământ
Crack (noun): crăpătură
Collapsed: prăbușit